Hi guys and thank you for reading this post and any other posts I have published! I am truly grateful and I hope I am helping you. In the last post I wrote about the concious and subconscious minds and in this post I am going to write about Fear!
Most people don’t chase their dreams or do something they are passionate about because of fear. The fear of failure, the fear of what other people think etc. Zig Ziglar said it best for me when he said FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. You see, our subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what actually happens in real time (reality) and what could happen (imagination, visions) so fear starts with a thought. What if I fail? What if I embarrass myself? Just like I wrote about in the previous post. Your fear starts with a thought and then your subconscious mind accepts that thought. The more you think about it, the more your affirming to your subconscious mind that you’re scared and this fear will become bigger and more powerful the more you think about it. That fear will start growing roots in your subconscious mind. I’d like you to think about something during your life that you were scared of and tell me if you think this is true? Really think about it. I didn’t go back and work as an Electrician because of Fear and it took me 5 years to say enough is enough. Because I then started to feel that it was the feeling of regret that would have been even more painful later in life if I didn’t do it. If you think about it, who cares what other people think of you because they will give it a quick thought and then go back to live their own life and you have not chased your dream because of what you think other people might think of you. What they think has absolutely no impact on what you do in your life unless you let it. Another great quote I find helpful is from Les Brown. “Don’t let other people’s opinions of you become your reality.” So my advice is don’t worry about what other people think of you.
I’m not saying it is easy because I can tell you from my own experiences that it is hard to overcome fear. I still struggle to this day and probably will for the rest of my life. And that’s ok because I am working on myself and growing as a person. Everyone is a work in progress. Everyone has a fear of something. I don’t know where I learnt this quote but “Feel the fear and do it anyway” is very helpful is summing up what I’m saying. I believe that is the best way to conquer fear. Do it before you think about it too much and it starts growing roots in your subconscious. Now, if you thought about a time in your life when you were scared of something and realised that the more you thought about it, the more it sunk into your subconscious mind and the harder it was to work through. This is the exactly what I was saying in my previous blog. If you do something on a daily basis, over a period of 90 days straight you will start to believe it. If you have gotten to a point where there is something you are now petrified to do, write down 5 things that could happen if you did it. Starting with the very worst case scenario. Look at those 5 responses and most likely the worst thing will not happen and if it does think how bad will it affect you. Then go down the list and do that with everything you wrote.
This is the crux of your fear of failure. Think about this for a moment. If you fail and never try again, then you fail. If you fail and try again then you figured out one way not to do something. The more you fail, the more you learn. Eventually you will get it right and it will pay off and you will be so proud of yourself and that feeling is amazing. If you fail and then just give up then you will eventually have the feeling of regret. Every time I have to do something I’m scared of I always ask those two questions; what will I learn if I fail? What will I feel if I just give up. Just remember this, do what is hard now so later in life it’s easier or better or you yourself are a better person for it. Most people do what is easy. The safe route. Then later in life it’s hard. “If you don’t fail. Your not even trying. To get something you’ve never had. You have to do something you’ve never done.” – Denzel Washington.
Please try to remember that quote. “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” Another thing to remember is your WHY!! Remember why your doing what your doing if fear is holding you back.
I hope this has helped you with something you’re scared about doing. Thank you again for reading this blog. Thank you again!